http://vibrantmoms.com/homemaking/new-years-thoughts/ Real Support for Real Moms. Wed, 08 Sep 2010 11:43:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 http://vibrantmoms.com/homemaking/new-years-thoughts/#comment-3604 Devorah Tue, 06 Oct 2009 01:57:45 +0000 http://vibrantmoms.com/homemaking/new-years-thoughts/#comment-3604 True! Concrete goals are absolutely vital or else I also find it doesn't work. What I do is make a chart of 13 middot I have to work on during the year. I honestly sit down and identify my faults and weaknesses and then fill out parts of the chart (it's actually a number of charts for daily cheshbon hanefesh). I leave 4-5 middot blank for my DH to come up with for me – he knows only too well what I really should be working on and improving. (We do a similar chart for him too, where I also get to point out his weaknesses - a true chance to flex my ezer k'negdo muscles :).) A couple of middot I also ask my mother to fill out for me (my father is niftar). Knowing that at the end of the day I have to give account not only to myself and Hashem, but to DH and mum, keeps me responsible and well motivated. I hate disappointing others.:) True! Concrete goals are absolutely vital or else I also find it doesn’t work. What I do is make a chart of 13 middot I have to work on during the year. I honestly sit down and identify my faults and weaknesses and then fill out parts of the chart (it’s actually a number of charts for daily cheshbon hanefesh). I leave 4-5 middot blank for my DH to come up with for me – he knows only too well what I really should be working on and improving. (We do a similar chart for him too, where I also get to point out his weaknesses - a true chance to flex my ezer k’negdo muscles :).) A couple of middot I also ask my mother to fill out for me (my father is niftar). Knowing that at the end of the day I have to give account not only to myself and Hashem, but to DH and mum, keeps me responsible and well motivated. I hate disappointing others.:)

]]> http://vibrantmoms.com/homemaking/new-years-thoughts/#comment-3588 Avivah Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:14:01 +0000 http://vibrantmoms.com/homemaking/new-years-thoughts/#comment-3588 I agree - that would be an amazing year of growth! I find that when I make it clear in what ways I want to improve, I do better than if I have general goals of being better - because I can't tell if I've improved if I don't set specific goals. I agree - that would be an amazing year of growth! I find that when I make it clear in what ways I want to improve, I do better than if I have general goals of being better - because I can’t tell if I’ve improved if I don’t set specific goals.

]]> http://vibrantmoms.com/homemaking/new-years-thoughts/#comment-3579 Devorah Tue, 29 Sep 2009 21:17:00 +0000 http://vibrantmoms.com/homemaking/new-years-thoughts/#comment-3579 I just intend, please G-d, to do that much extra in every area of my living and being. I see it as if we are given to build ourselves throughout our lives, and with each new year a new floor must be added to that building. Another year from Hashem - another level from me. If I can be that much kinder and wiser, that much more considerate, attentive and understanding towards others; more diligent and inspired in my mitzvos observance, and just in general be that much a better person, wife, mother and daughter and friend, then I would regard it a happy and successful year. :) I just intend, please G-d, to do that much extra in every area of my living and being. I see it as if we are given to build ourselves throughout our lives, and with each new year a new floor must be added to that building. Another year from Hashem - another level from me. If I can be that much kinder and wiser, that much more considerate, attentive and understanding towards others; more diligent and inspired in my mitzvos observance, and just in general be that much a better person, wife, mother and daughter and friend, then I would regard it a happy and successful year.

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